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3 Telltale Signs Your Child is Developing an Eating Disorder

February 18, 2022

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Every single day parents grapple with whether their child is heading towards an eating disorder or just being a normal kid. Yeah, Suzi skips meals but what teen doesn’t? Their son only wants to eat protein, but don’t all boys want to gain muscle?

The reasons parents don’t seek help vary. Maybe they hope their child will outgrow body issues or they feel they haven’t done anything to promote an eating disorder.

Parents need to know that eating disorders can happen to any child and are on the rise. According to a study in the American Journal of Nutrition, between 2000-2018, global rates of eating disorders have gone from 3.4% to 7.8%. And that was before the pandemic. Research points to an increase in youth eating disorders and related hospitalizations in the past two years

The one thing that hasn’t changed: getting early help is one of the most important things parents can do. So read on to see if you child’s behavior is a red flag for an eating disorder.

Jump Ahead

  • The Importance of Secondary Prevention
  • 1. Weight loss, body preoccupation, and appearance changes
  • 2. Change in eating and drinking patterns
  • 3. Excessive exercise
  • What’s a Parent to Do?
  • Get the Support YOU Need
  • The Time to Act is Now

The Importance of Secondary Prevention

According to Sari Shepphird Ph.D., an eating disorder specialist and author of 100 Questions & Answers About Anorexia Nervosa, eating disorders have a strong genetic connection. For example, a child whose parent suffered from an eating disorder is 12 times more likely to be diagnosed with one. And according to a 2021 report from the American Academy of Pediatrics, the mean age of onset of eating disorders is 12.5 years.

“Parents can prevent a certain amount of disordered eating,” says Laura Collins author of Eating with Your Anorexic: A Mother’s Memoir. “But some young people seem to be so deeply predisposed toward this illness that they will develop an eating disorder no matter what their environment is.”

This is where “secondary prevention” comes in. It focuses on the early identification of an eating disorder – to treat this disease before it gets out of control. Shepphird explains that when caught early, persons suffering from eating disorders have the best chance of full recovery.

So, with that in mind, here are three telltale signs that can help you catch an eating disorder early.

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1. Weight loss, body preoccupation, and appearance changes

Weight loss is almost always the first sign of an impending eating disorder. The drop in weight may be hidden from others by baggy or oversized clothes.

In addition to weight loss, look for a preoccupation with body shape and weight. One example is a young girl who not only focuses on her weight but the weight of others. This weight-centric behavior is typically accompanied by a poor body image despite an average or low body weight.

As many as 25% of early onset eating disorder cases are males and their signs may be different. For example, boys tend to be more focused on muscularity instead of weight and shape. Male youths also tend to be younger at diagnosis and identify with an ethnic minority group.

Look for signs of frequent body checking in mirrors and talk of flaws in appearance. If they are at risk for bulimia, they may have more cavities or discolored teeth. And girls who menstruate may see a change or absence of their period.

“I am very thankful my parents got REALLY proactive RIGHT when I started losing weight,” said Katie, an adult women diagnosed with an eating disorder at age 15. “I can’t imagine what would have happened if they hadn’t gotten me help ASAP!”

Be aware of high risk groups
Transgender youth are at increased risk for an eating disorder diagnosis. In group of college students surveyed, 16% of transgender respondents had been diagnosed with an eating disorder, compared to 1.85% cisgender heterosexual women. Children and adolescents with health conditions that require restricting food such as diabetes, are also at higher risk.

2. Change in eating and drinking patterns

Alterations in the way your child relates to food is another red flag.

Shepphird explains that skipping meals, being anxious while eating and rituals such as dividing, weighing, and playing with food are all things to watch for (we’re not talking about picky toddler behavior here). Some might become vegetarian out of nowhere. And going straight to the bathroom after meals could also be a sign of bulimia.

Reports indicate about half of adolescents have tried dieting, a leading risk factor for eating disorders.

In a 2020 study out of the UK, adolescents were asked if they dieted or exercised to lose weight. In 2015, 44.4% said they had dieted and 60.5% had exercised to lose weight compared with 37.7% and 6.8% in 1986.

And 42.2% were currently trying to lose weight in 2015 compared with 28.6% in 2005. Although increases were bound in boys and girls, boys’ prevalence of these behaviors increased more over time.

Those who are developing a binge eating disorder may feel out of control when eating, including times where they eat much more food than would otherwise seem normal. You might find empty food wrappers in the room.

Their weight can fluctuate but in the case of bulimia and binge eating disorders, low body weight is not common.

Also be on the lookout for drinking large amounts of water or calorie-free drinks. Are they suddenly using mouthwash, mints, or gum?

“My mom once confronted me about weight loss pills, I was taking and I freaked out at her and told her they were vitamins,” said Jenny a recovering dieter. “I was young and I wish she would have been more insistent about me getting rid of them.”

Want to help your daughter develop a healthy body image? Read: 13 Things Girls with a Healthy Body Image Don’t Do

3. Excessive exercise

When Melissa was in college, she started running 7 miles almost daily, barely ate, and got down to a meager 103 pounds (she’s 5’6″).  When she returned home her family was afraid to approach her even though they were concerned about her weight.

“I definitely wish my parents had been more inquisitive when they first started to notice I had lost a lot of weight,” she said. “I think they (and I) might have been able to stop the progression of my disease sooner rather than later”

Using exercise to purge calories is another warning sign. In the aforementioned study, many more adolescents use exercise as a means to control weight today (60.5%) than in previous generations (6.8%).

George Hillinger, professional fitness trainer and certified medical exercise specialist says super long cardio sessions that can go as long as an hour and a half can be problematic. The exercise behavior is excessive, he explains, and there’s an “I’ll work out at any cost” mentality.

“The biggest hurdle in what I do is teaching individuals with eating disorders that exercise is not about torture,” he said. “It’s much better if they can start at a sensible pace and find something they really enjoy doing.”

What’s a Parent to Do?

So, you’ve gathered the clues and believe that your child might have an eating disorder. What exactly should you do with this information?

“A great first step for parents is to talk to their child’s pediatrician for an accurate diagnosis and guidance for getting help,” said Shepphird. “Parents also need to learn all they can about eating disorders.”

Start by downloading this guide from the Academy of Eating Disorders. It provides education on eating disorders and the vitals and labs you’ll want your doctor to do. Be sure to ask for a copy of your child’s growth charts too.

The AAP recommends pediatricians conduct a comprehensive evaluation including both medical and psychological assessment so be sure your doctor is on top of it.

If your child’s doctor wants to do a wait and see, ask for specialist referrals in your area and let them know you don’t want to wait.

You can also get help from the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) by chatting at myneda.org/helpline, calling 800-931-2237 or texting  741741

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Get the Support YOU Need

Laura Collins was in this very position when her daughter was diagnosed with an eating disorder at age 14. Her biggest issue was finding support from other parents going through the same thing. She found most parents hiding in shame mostly due to society’s tendency to blame parents.

“When parents spend all their time blaming themselves their energy is spent on the wrong things,” she said.  “Parents need to realize it’s not their fault and that they need to be proactive with this very real and serious diagnosis.”

Because there was so little support for parents Collins decided to act. Her mission is to educate parents about eating disorders. She does this through her books and her role as F.E.A.S.T. (Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment of Eating Disorders) Board of Directors since 2007.

Consider joining supportive private Facebook groups such as the International Eating Disorder Family Support.

The Time to Act is Now

There’s no doubt that the health and psychological consequences of eating disorders are significant. So, arm yourself with accurate information, and be on the lookout for signs and symptoms of eating disorders.

And if you start seeing some red flags, you’ll want to act. But don’t take it from me, take it from Stephanie, an adult woman who was diagnosed with an eating disorder at 18:

“I wish my mom had been more persistent and trusted her instinct. She recognized that I had a problem and confronted me about it, but in my eating disorder-fueled rage I got so upset that she backed off completely until I was really sick. If I had gotten help at that very early stage in my eating disorder, I would have spared myself a lot of agony, physical harm, and years of very expensive and grueling treatment later on.”

This post was originally published on April 22, 2010 and updated February 18, 2022

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  1. Laura Collins says

    April 23, 2010 at 8:07 am

    Thank you for this helpful and optimistic information. So good to give parents tools and concrete help! I appreociate the work you are doing!

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      April 23, 2010 at 11:04 am

      Thanks Laura. I appreciate your contribution to the article and all that you are doing to increase eating disorder awareness.

      Reply
  2. TwinToddlersDad says

    April 24, 2010 at 9:42 am

    Hello Maryann
    Interesting and informative article. It seems to be a behavioral problem to me. Are there any biological reasons which trigger these eating disorders? Based on the age of kids diagnosed with eating disorders in your examples, it seems like the problem starts at around puberty or in the early teens. I wonder if there is a connection between hormonal changes, along with pressures from the environment, and eating disorders in kids at this age.

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    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      April 24, 2010 at 9:03 pm

      Hi TwinToddlersDad. No one knows exactly what causes eating disorders but they are a combination of behavioral, genetic, psychological (low self esteem), interpersonal, social and biological factors. Here’s a good summary from the National Eating Disorders Association http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/nedaDir/files/documents/handouts/WhatCaus.pdf

      Reply
  3. Jane Cawley says

    April 27, 2010 at 4:40 pm

    There is a lot parents can do to help their child or teen who develops an eating disorder. With early intervention and family-based treatment (sometimes called the Maudsley approach) there is every reason to be hopeful. http://vimeo.com/1734296

    TwinToddlersDad,
    You might want to look at this site for info on the neurobiological aspects of eating disorders–interesting stuff! http://health.ucsd.edu/specialties/psych/eatingdisorders/neurobiology/

    Reply
  4. Nina says

    November 6, 2012 at 5:40 pm

    What I’d like to know is how to approach another mother with my concerns that her daughter aged 12 may be developing an eating disorder….. knowing that the mother concerned may be offended by my saying anything about it.

    The girl concerned has voiced certain attitudes such as… “I used to eat heaps but now I hardly eat anything because it makes me feel sick if I overeat” “I like cheese burgers but I don’t want to get fat so I don’t eat much.”

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      November 8, 2012 at 1:45 pm

      Nina,

      I would talk to a specialist in eating disorders about this because I’m not really sure what you should do. They deal with this all the time and can provide better guidance. It’s nice that you are concerned and hopefully things will turn around for your friend and her daughter.

      Reply
  5. Andrew says

    August 1, 2014 at 7:49 am

    My daughter is 12 we caught her self harming and got her with a counselor ASAP and now it appears she has an ED of some kind. She has improved quite a bit the past 3 months with attitude etc; however my wife thinks she is purginging and hiding ED. My daughter Denys it to us and her therapist, I am torn about this to believe it or not. She continues at the therapist weekly and we are escalating with monthly blood work and are considering adding a psychiatrist as well. I want to catch her in the act to prove she is or is not lying about it. We have emphasized that this is a deadly condition that you don’t just get over and shared tragic stories etc. So how do I catch her in the act? She has not lied to me before and I want to believe her….

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      August 3, 2014 at 11:19 am

      Is she seeing a dietitian? That would be important. I would work with the health professionals to get resolution.

      Reply
      • andrew says

        August 3, 2014 at 11:29 am

        Not yet but we are going to get blood samples monthly to monitor her health

        Reply
  6. Olivia Pearson says

    January 3, 2019 at 11:04 am

    I appreciate how you mentioned that significant weight loss is one of the first signs of an eating disorder. My friend is worried that her 14-year-old daughter has developed a severe eating disorder because she has inexplicably lost weight and doesn’t have the energy she used to. I’m sure that if the problem worsens, she’d benefit from finding an eating disorder treatment center so her daughter can get the necessary care to get back to a healthy weight. Thanks for the information.

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  7. Clarence B. McKinley says

    April 18, 2022 at 9:36 am

    Your post is really informative, and i like your post a lot. Thanks a lot for sharing such a useful information.

    Reply
  8. Prakash says

    April 29, 2022 at 10:48 pm

    Really an informative article about the eating disorders that the young children are developing these days. I will take care this on my own child too.

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