I’ve been reading a lot about snacking in children and whether or not it’s necessary. Some say snacks need to go, except one afternoon nosh, and others say their kids couldn’t survive without constant fuel.
So I wanted to dig into this topic by evaluating the research and providing insight. But first, let’s review the reason snacking is taking a hit in the first place.
Jump Ahead
The Snacking Problem
Research shows that snacks have risen from 1977 to 2006 with children moving from 2 to 3 snacks per day consisting of almost one-third of daily calories. There has also been an increase in salty snacks and candy as prime food choices, even though desserts and sweetened beverages remain the major sources of calories from snacks.
The calories from snacks have also gone up by 168 calories, with the largest increases in 2 to 6 years olds (182 calories).
So children are snacking more often on foods of low nutritional quality. Time to give up snacking? Not yet….
As Stomachs Grow so Does Time Between Meals
I think it’s important to take a step back and consider why young children need to eat more frequently than adults. For example, an adult’s stomach is about the size of a football while a toddler’s is the size of his fist. This is why newborns eat every 1-3 hours around the clock and as their stomachs grow, they can go longer and eventually stop the night feeds.
By one year, most children are eating about 6 times per day, with the last meal typically consisting of milk or a breastfeeding session. Toddlers tend to eat every 2-3 hours (5-6 meals) while preschoolers may be able to go 3, maybe even 4 hours between meals. Sample meal plans, like those in the American Academy of Pediatrics Handbook, recommend 3 main meals and 2 in between meal snacks for the average toddler/preschooler.
By school age, children can move to a “3 meal and one afternoon snack” routine, but timing of breakfast and lunch matter. For example, a child that starts school early (7:30), meaning breakfast is at 7 or earlier, who doesn’t have lunch until 12:30, would need something in between.
The foods recommended in between meals are nutrient-dense items to help fill nutritional gaps.
The (Tricky) Research
The problem with the research in this area, which mostly looks at weight as the outcome, is there is no set definition for what is a snack, eating occasion or meal. Each study has different criteria, making the results less impactful.
When it comes to meal frequency, research leans toward more frequent meals but not necessarily more snacking. Take a 2012 study published in American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, in which the food intake of 2,732 girls was examined over a 10-year period. The girls with a lower eating frequency had greater increases in Body Mass Index and waist circumference. Yet other studies such as The Bogalusa Heart Study (2003), showed snacking to be positively associated with excess weight.
Because population-based studies (epidemiologic) don’t prove cause and effect, it’s important to look at intervention studies, of which I found two. One, done back in the sixties, fed boarding school students either 3 times a day, 5 times or 7. The more frequent eating was associated with less weight gain in older children (10-16 years) but not younger ones (6-11). The authors hypothesize that this may have to do with the adolescent growth spurt, a time when appetite increases.
In the second study, published in the 2011 issue of Obesity, 18 normal weight and 17 obese children, between 6 and 10 years old, were given either three or five feedings in a day of the same calorie value. After each day, children were offered as much ice cream as they wanted. On the frequent feeding day, the obese children ate 73 calories more of ice cream while the normal weight children at 47 calories less. It was hypothesized that higher weight children do better on 3 bigger meals, but because this was short term — one day of each feeding — it’s difficult to say for sure.
Didier Chapelot, a leading researcher on eating patterns, sums up the research in his 2011 paper in the American Society for Nutrition:
An accurate distinction between meals and snacks is important because they are hypothesized to have opposite effects on energy balance. Specifically, a high meal frequency may prevent fat mass deposition, yet snacking may contribute to it.
Chapelot, who presented at the 2009 Experimental Biology conference, explains that what may be most important is letting hunger drive eating occasions.
Development, Individual Children, and Food Type
Understanding your child’s growth and development, something we go into great detail in Fearless Feeding, is key to deciding how often to offer food. As said earlier, younger children need to be offered food more frequently, but it’s important to remember that they should be the ones to choose to eat or not. With growth spurts and changing appetites, parents need to remember that eating is not supposed to be predictable every day.
But it’s not just how often a child eats, but what they are being fed. I think we need to stop defining snacks in terms of the “snack aisle” at the grocery store — fruit snacks, pretzels, crackers, granola bars etc. While once and a while is fine, in between eating should be similar to main meals with fewer food groups, helping meet nutritional gaps and getting little ones (and adults) to the next meal with an appetite.
So tell me, how many times a day does your child eat? Is this a struggle for you?
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We generally have two snacks per day. Usually one late morning and one before bed. The big trick for us has been moving to healthier snacks. Staying away from “snack aisle” treats for the most part. We do have those occasionally, but I don’t keep them in the house all the time any more.
It seems obvious to me now, but we tended to eat that stuff just because it was there. I try to keep bananas, apples, and nuts on hand all the time. I really don’t mind if the kids eat those any time, and they tend to save it for when they are actually hungry, and not just want a fun snack.
We do still have some less healthy things like chips and cookies, but they are more for an occasion and not a daily part of meals.
Things had really gotten out of hand with my four year old refusing all meals and only eating snacks. It’s going better, and I no longer nag him to eat. If the only snacks available are fruit and nuts and cheese, it’s not so bad.
Thanks Jenny. I think it’s reasonable to allow fruit if a child is hungry. I do that too. If my daughter really wants to eat between meals and it seems she’s extra hungry we eithe rmove up the meal or she can have a banana or orange. She also went through stages of eating very little at meals but now she is almost 6 and eats most of the time.
My step-daughter is 5 and eats very little for meals and most of the time gets away with not finishing dinner but is looking for a snack 1 hr after eating. It gets exhausting making many trips to the kitchen especially half the time she doesn’t finish her small serving. She always expects a snack before bed as a routine but from what I read that’s normal…but is it normal when dinner is served late & she wants the snack anyway an hr later? Also how do I get her to start eating more at meal times such as dinner so she’s not hungry almost immediately afterwards?
Hi Stacey. This is a common feeding challenge. The key is to enforce no eating between meals and snacks. You can offer her fruit if she’s really hungry. My books From Picky to Powerful and How to Raise a Mindful Eater can help you with this.
my younger brother is eating every minutes i wonder wats wrong with him
Maryann – thanks for always bringing the science together on these topics, it’s very helpful! I was taught early on in my twins’ lives to handle snacks like mini-meals having a few different food groups present, and it has really helped keep their overall eating healthy – sometimes they eat every bite of yogurt and granola for a snack and not one bit of dinner, but I still feel ok since they got important nutrients at snack time.
Thanks LeAnne. I use snack time to fill nutrition gaps too. If they skipped something at breakfast (like fruit) than that’s our morning snack. When protein is low at lunch, it’s a high protein afternoon nosh! Dinner I just relax and am always surprised by how they eat. Just when I think they won’t be hungry they ask for seconds and when I am sure htey will scarf it down they only want a little. Gotta love kids!
I find it curious that there are so few studies on this! At my household, with my 2 and 3 year olds, we eat four times per day: breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner, with “snack” being more of a small meal than “snack” food. Occasionally, when nap and sleep times vary, I add a mid morning or evening snack as appropriate to the time from last meal to the next meal. We don’t eat in between meals (or drink milk/juice) and i find this allows my children to get hungry enough for a meal but not cranky hungry (if I see the cranky hungry starting, especially if a child ate lightly at the last meal, i move the next mealtime up.)
Tawn — sounds like you found something that works for your family. I think a flexible routine works best!
Maryann, I also appreciate that you include research highlights in your posts. I’m also surprised there are not more conclusive studies about snacking. Snacks are often seen in such a negative light, but I think if we broaden our idea about what to serve, we move away from the typical snack choices that often provide less nutritional value.
We have 3 meals but the number of snacks may vary depending on schedule and meal timing for that particular day – gotta stay flexible!
Thanks Sam. We are flexible too. Sunday seems to be a late breakfast and early lunch. I like to change up the routine a bit on the weekends!
My kids snack throughout the day. So much that people comment that they are always eating. I personally must eat every 90 minutes or so to keep my blood sugar steady. I try very hard to keep the snacks healthy. The constant mini-meals don’t really bother me. I figure they’ll get into a more structured eating schedule when they start school.
Sounds like you have found something that works for your family. In the end, that’s what really matters!
I have 2 kids on opposite ends of the spectrum. A son that doesn’t care much about food and will be full after 3 bites some days so “snacks” definitely fill in the gap for him. But what I struggle with is with my daughter who will eat a full breakfast and then want a snack only when she hears her brother ask or when I offer something else to him to eat since I know that he had 3 bites of something earlier. What to do????
Brooke — I would get a structure for eating main meals at snacks down. No matter what your children eat let them know when the next meal will be. If you offer your lite eater a snack right after a meal, he will be less likely to eat well at the main meal. Does that makes sense? See this post for more details http://www.maryannjacobsen.com/2009/07/kids-planned-meals-and-snacks/
Making sure that snacks are healthy has been the key for me to relax about my (currently 3.5yo) son’s eating. If I buy traditional “snack” foods, I make sure they have whole grain, like graham crackers or whole grain gold fish. Most of our snacks though are fruit. My son typically eats a mid-afternoon snack and a snack immediately before bed. But I also tend to let him have fruit just about anytime he wants, except right before dinner. I sometimes think I should cut down on snacks because he often eats very little at dinner, but I guess that’s backward.
I should admit, though, that I have a pretty significant candy addiction, which inevitably means my son eats more candy between meals than I would like. He knows about all my stashes! I really need to cut out the sugar, for his sake as well as mine.
Moremadder — you might want to try having a cut off time for the afternoon snack. So if dinner is at 6:30, don’t let him snack after 4pm. Just a thought…
My 9-year old stopped wanting any snacks when he was 4. He just eats 3 meals a day. My 5-year old wants to eat every 2-3 hours through the entire day. I have no idea how he’s going to make it through all-day kindergarten come this fall. There is no snack time in kindergarten. Both my kids are very thin, athletic boys. I usually offer fruit, veggies with dip, homemade yogurt, or cheese as snack choices.
Great info. As a mother of two – enjoyed this especially w/ science included! – TN
We went on vacation this past week and that helped drive home the knowledge of ‘snacks’ at least. My oldest (6) has succombed to peer knowledge that a ‘snack’ = sweet. When she asks for a snack, I ask if she is hungry. Usually she says no, she just wants something sweet. Fortunately, after a long swim session and she was really hungry, she ate a boiled egg and two bannanas. This was my first time in all this discussion that I was able to relate snack to nutrition with a solid example! I could see the lightbulb brighten a little.
It doesn’t help that ‘snacks’ at daycare/afterschool are always cracker/sucker/cookie/no protein high carb food that leaves both my girls starving when we get home.
I have a 4 year old son who eats CONSTANTLY & that is not an exaggeration. We treat snacks as mini-meals & I strive to have foods from 3 or 4 of the food groups on the plate (We don’t have foods with added sugar, corn syrup, no junk food – chocolate, cookies, cupcakes or added preservatives in our house). He eats a lot at both meal & snack times – and he is saying he is hungry ALL THE TIME. He eats breakfast, lunch, dinner but he also asks for food every hour to hour and a half. It is no stretch for him to eat 8 or 9 times he eats during a normal day. Yet he is consistently losing weight and is actually considered underweight based on height (he’s VERY tall for his age) and age & he is a huge ball of energy. I know young children need to eat frequently because of the small size of their stomachs..but that often?
Sarah — I would check a few things. I she getting enough fat and protein? These foods tend to satisfy and keep kids fuller for longer. Also, you might want to consider adding in some wholesome treat foods like homemade cookies and muffins. Children that don’t get any of these foods may grow up to become more obsessed with them or food in general (kids naturally crave sweet tastes). There is room in the diet for such foods in a nutritious diet for kids — about 10% of the diet. And like I said, if you make them at home you can feel good about the ingredients.
My 3-year-old typically has a snack in the morning and usually doesn’t want a snack in the afternoon. If he doesn’t ask or want a snack in the morning, I don’t worry about it but may serve lunch a little earlier than normal. I try to give healthy snacks (fruit) but sometimes it happens to be graham crackers or goldfish. In the afternoons, he doesn’t ask nor wants a snack. But if I’m chopping veggies for dinner he’ll snag a few (which I don’t mind at all). He usually eats good meals so I don’t worry about the snacks. I let him tell me he is hungry and wants something to eat.
I appreciate this article. I’m also a little concerned because my four year old daughter wants to eat almost every two-two and half hours. The doctor says her weight and height are fine. A growth spurt maybe?
Snacking is a bone of contention between me and my ex-wife. My son is malnourished and won’t eat anything I feel out of control for his feelings. She doesn’t have any snacks at all, and though he is a picky eater, she sends him to bed hungry if he won’t eat what she fixes. He doesn’t like Milk, and she makes him drink it. I feel like she robs him of his maturation process by all the control and brow-beating.
That’s another story, but I want my son to mature, eat well, and eat proper foods. I’ve tried getting Vemma juice supplements, JuicePlus gummies which he likes, and I feel better about putting nutrition in his body. At any rate, thanks for the article and will bookmark your site. Great blog!
Dean
Thanks Dean. Good luck with your ex-wife. It sounds like your son needs in between eating times, a more relaxed approach to feeding and to have some food at the table he will eat. He’s lucky to have you!
I feel like my 2 1/2 year old does often eat snacks out of routine. Se loves Food and gets excited for snacks and meals. I find this age to be so routine in most aspects, but do I need to change this? How do you teach this age to eat when they are hungry and not because of the time? Also, have you ever addressed how to deal with a kid asking for seconds? I usually tell her if she’s hungry she can eat the other items on her plate (since its usually the bread item that gets eaten first that she wants immediate seconds of). Any suggestions or do you have a post I can be referred to?
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Dear Maryann,
I am a mother of three boys and I desperately need help. My oldest boy is 10 years old and in the fifth grade. Everyday he comes home from school with complaints of fatigue and lack of attention prior to lunch. His elementary school has a “no snack policy” for all 5th grade students. He gets on the bus at 6:55 am and school begins at 745. He eats a good healthy breakfast but by lunch (which is at 12:20) he is starved and so are all the other kids. I have spoken to the teacher and principal but both insisted this policy is for the best of the children. I am at a total loss of what to do to help my son and the other fifth grade children. if there is any additional information or suggestions you could pass along to help me fight this policy I would be forever grateful. These children are expected to focus on school work with stomachs that have been empty for at best 5 hours. How can this be in their best interest?
Sorry to hear you are having trouble Gina. The report below discusses the importance of eating on cognition and test scores (mostly breakfast) but you could argue that the same effect would be seen if kids don’t eat for long periods. I also suggest getting other parents to sign a petition that they want a snack too. Good luck!
http://www.nationaldairycouncil.org/ChildNutrition/Documents/Wellness%20Impact%20Report.pdf
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I am struggling with a client of mine, her son is 6 in August. Her son has acquired Brain Injury and is attending a rehabilitation programme at our facility. He is very lethargic when he comes for therapy and I have noticed ( she is staying with me for 8 weeks)her feeding schedule is not appropriate, well at least in my opinion. I cook the meals( same as my B.I son its a low G.I diet calorie counted with added oils because of seizures, except for breakfast because she said it caused her son seizures( oatmeal, with a grated apple and a table spoon of coconut oil.. cooked in water or coconut or camel milk) So heres her meal time table.
Breakfast 12.45 pm. Lunch 1.30 P.m. therapy 2 to 6 We insist he be given a snack at 4 p.m which she doesnt do, so we usually give fruit, papaya,banana or mango . We try to give him as much water in between, small amounts. she insists he does not need more than 400 ml per day.
Dinner 7 to 7.30 but sometimes she just leaves it and by 9 p.m. we have to ask her to feed her son. I believe the space from dinner to breakfast is too long.
She is finishing her 8 week programme with us and I am writing her report. i would like to write something about meals, at least the frequency.
She seems to know everything as she says she researches it over the internet. i suggested she see a nutritionist but she says she can research.
I would like to help her son and at least have a recommendation before she leaves. Can you help me?
Some kids gain too fast, some not fast enough and some seem to do fine no matter what household their in. I’m a pediatrician and I have often had the opportunity to intervene right when a childs bmi suddenly starts to take off (off the charts.) The two biggest problems I’ve found are grandparents (child spends afterschool or weekends at one or two grandparents houses so there being fed in three different households and parents are having trouble controlling it) or a child that is snacking (crackers, goldfish) in a kind of ongoing way all afternoon. Its hardest to convince the parents whose kids are eating “healthy” foods and are fairly active that there is a problem. If their are other kids in the house who are not overweight the parents figure its the child’s body type and don’t believe they have to do something different. I use the BMI chart. Often there is one particular year in which the BMI jumped 4 or 5 percentiles! I try to catch it then. But because the BMI should drop from age 2-6, the parents have a harder time noticing when it happens in that age group. Negotiating changes with a kid who loves to eat and complains of being hungry is hard. The first hurdle is creating times to eat and NO eating in between. Not even fruit. But I allow for intervals of 2-3 hours so that the crying fighting and whining doesn’t go on for to long. That way we’re dealing with the behavior first. The parents quickly learn that a more nutritionally complete snack makes them go longer more easily. Also they start to notice if the child is eating out of bordom, fatigue, upset, etc. The other changes are made after that. It’s much easier to get a child to like a new food if there is a little more time past and their not always “topping off the tank”. Do you find this to be the case as well?
Omg! I guess I really need help!.I have a twins two years old girls, and I am so worry about how much they eat every day. My kids are not “breakfast kids” They drink 8onz of milk right after they wake up and don’t wanna eat anything else after this. And If I start their mornings with breakfast(fruits, eggs, yogurtes) they don’t eat either. They go to school around 10:30AM and I have to offer them milk again at 10:20AM. Sometimes, just one will eat only one cracker between these two bottlers. Their snacks from school always comes back, they get home at 1PM and don’t eat lunch untill 1:30Pm and sometimes 2PM. After lunch, bottle again and nap for 1 to two hours. When they wake up from their nap they don’t eat anything untill dinner which is 6:30PM and sometimes 7:00PM. It depends what time the last bottle was. So altogether, my kids have three meals (if I count milk as a breakfast) otherwise they eat only two meals per day, every 4 hours :/
Should I try to feed them more often? I’ve tried so many things, I have thousands of books with kids recipes, healtly foods and keep throwing in the trash their snacks. Pls, help me! I’d love to hear by email too.
Thank you very much.
Have you considered weaning them off a bottle? It may be that they are filling up on milk so they are not hungry for meals.
Hi,
my daughter is 6 and gets hungry every 2 hours… i can set my clock by her. She doesn’t like much meat, and hates beans and peas. I don’t like giving her too many cookies or salty snacks, but fruits seem to go right through her. She is also on the small side for her age. Any advice?
Well if you feed her 3 meals and 2 snacks that’s about every 3 hours. I would keep offering the protein along with other food groups. How about cheese, yogurt, whole grains and nuts? 3-5 food groups at a meal and 2-3 at snacks. work with her on finding out which foods are more satisfying and fill her up longer.
my 3 year old son waking up between 5-6 in morning then he want to eat, not long after he is finished with breakfast he is hungry again… any help please… and he only whant sweets if I say no he is trouing a tantrum… please help
I just wrote about setting limits. Hope this helps: http://www.maryannjacobsen.com/2016/04/want-to-strengthen-your-childs-self-control-muscle-avoid-this-common-feeding-mistake/
Hi i seem to have a huge problem and im totally confused. My daughter will be six in a month and she can litterally eat like every 5 mins. The moment sit diwn after feeding h÷r she says im hungry or thirsty . she used to be very skinny and frail from baby to 2 yrs old then we stood with her grandma for a year and she got fat from watching her siblings eat. Now we live in a shelter and she has a adult appetite she eats out of boredom i think. She weighs more than my 12 year old daughter. And she only 5. And shes tallest in her . people think shes 7 or 8 yrs old.She unhealthy with many cavities. She steals food all day . i had to turn the small frisge backward and tie the chairs the table. Then she got strong and learned how to turn fridge back around. I only get 200.00 $ in foodstamps 1 time a month to split 2 ways. And 60.00$ in cash every 2 weeks all from welfair. I cant afford organic stuff so she eats hot dogs hot pockets pizza cereal pb&j sandwich. Candy and junk food.I dont know how cook or prepair much of anything as my mom was a junky and didnt feed me or teach me much of anything. Im pretty sick ,with stomach cancer fibro mayalgia, thalasemia. Diabetes. Asthma thyroid issues .sooooo many more issues. Im 31 but feel really old and fatigued i cant keep up with her adhd. So she stays home with me and eats out of boredome she dont have her siblings to play with or not too much toys. Jus tv no cable. So my question is wat times are kids supposed to eat meals on schooldays and weekends and during summer. Its summer now so she not guna eat school lunch. Also what exacly am i supposed to feed her. I dont know what is enough to pile on her plate. Can please tell me the exact times to give her meals n snacks and many times day. P.s. she refuses to try new food n wen i try to get her to nibble , she lies says shes going to throw up and ends up forcing vomit out. Shes pre diabet and her sugar is always high. I am a suger addict. She know where all my are . and wen her dad comes to watch her he lets her destroy everything eat everything and do anything. I donr feel like im being a good mom to her by allowing her to b unhealthy but dont know how to feed her wat i cant afford. And i dont want to her up. Child welfair took me several times from my horrible mom. And i dont know wat was worse, home or fostercare. Please show me an example of wat breakfast lunch dinner should look like. And snacks and the times they should be .
This sounds like a complicated issue without simple answers. That being said, I would start just serving snacks/meals at certain times without allowing eating in between. Eat at a table or designated place and then wait until the next meal snack. For example breakfast at 7, snack at 10, lunch 12:20, snack at 3pm and dinner arounnd 6-7. I would seek help or look for articles about preparing food with the resources you have. Start slow and soon you will find that you have a few meals under your belt. Here are some articles that may help https://snaped.fns.usda.gov/nutrition-education-materials/meal-planning-shopping-and-budgeting
Free downloadable book https://cookbooks.leannebrown.com/good-and-cheap.pdf
Good luck!
My son is 5yrs old eat any adult size of 3main meal and 3 snack . And still want more but when he want more and gave to jim he up all night cry cuz his belly hurt .i been tring to stop it but he take food out the fridge and eat it well hiding . And he not a big boy what do i do .. doctor has done test and they say their nothing wrong with him
It’s hard to answer this question without more information. Do you have structured mealtimes? Do you offer sweets on a regular basis.
It may be your son needs to decide when he’s done. He may get a tummyache for a while but that will teach him how much to eat. It takes time and you can help him focus in on feeling of fullness. For more on this subject, see these articles:
http://www.maryannjacobsen.com/2014/04/got-a-food-obsessed-kid-research-warns-dont-restrict-them/
http://www.maryannjacobsen.com/2015/09/let-your-child-make-these-3-food-mistakes/
Hi! I am living in Thailand and my son is 3 years old. The school doesn’t want to let the kids take any food or milk during breaktime for a reason that they want the kids to eat a lot during lunch. My son will eat his breakfast 7:00 in the morning and the lunch time in the school is 11:00 am. I am worried because he moves a lot and he used to eat snacks in the house during weekends. Do you think it’s ok?
Sorry I didn’t see this comment until now. 4 hours can be a long time for a 3 year old. Why don’t you see how it goes and if you son has trouble talk to them.
Hi Maryann,
I am a parent of two (3 year-old and 12 month-old) and I run a home daycare. I provide healthy snacks and meals to my children and my clients’ children (mostly fruits, veggies, and beans with some low-sugar grains). I’ve been wondering whether I should be limiting the amount of food children eat for snack. Often I don’t limit how much they eat–letting them decide how much, as I believe you often say–and they’ll eat a ton for snack and then not eat much for their next meal.
I’m not sure what to think about this. On the one hand, it’s not a big problem because all the food I serve is pretty healthy so it’s not like they’re loading up on empty calories. On the other hand, it’s at least a social norm that “main” meals are larger and snacks are smaller. Is there a nutritional (or other good) reason to be limiting how much they eat at snacks, or is it more of a social convention thing? Thanks!
First I would look atthe timing between snack and lunch — is it to short or should it be stretched longer. Also, instead of limiting how much, how about limit the timing. How long do you give them? Maybe just 10-15 minutes to refuel. Also, maybe snack time needs to be moved up as it seems the kids are really hungry. Just some ideas…
My partners sons eating has gotten out of control. He takes entire box’s of cereal to his room secretly and will devour it in one sitting. I hid a six pack of sodas in our liquor cabinet and he drank them all in one night. Last night i left leftover porkchops on the counter and he came back for thirds before I could notice (3 whole porkchops). The worst and it’s almost emberassing, he at a whole bottle of antacids like they were candy. He’s 12 yo and he’s EXTREMELY overweight. He’s maybe 4 ft 6 (really short) so he’s growing out almost faster than he’s growing up. Already won’t take his shirt off in public, resists all strenuous exercise, and is tragically TRAGICALLY sedintary. Yesterday after the pork chops he got straight in bed with his Ipad (eyeroll). His mother and I are extremely alarmed. She’s paralyzed by guilt and confusion but I’m ready to act. We just don’t know how to go about it. He hides behind the ignorance of being a child just shrugging it off, but I know he knows better. Weve had countless discussions on how this will negatively impact his health and his family has a strong history of diabetes and heart conditions, and even have taken priveleges away when he sneaks food. His behavior obviously has underlying issues but that aside, how should i approach this? I don’t want to hurt his feelings but we’ve hit a wall. I hid a stash of carby snacks that just disappeared and i just found all the rappers under his bed. I mean whole bags of cereal and chips. I’m putting a lock on the pantry, a ulock on the fridge, and putting seven snacks out 1 per day, and all meals will be personally plated and served by me, also there will be dixie cups and water so he doesn’t have to pretend to get water every 10 minutes. I’m basically banishing him from the kitchen and touching any food without consent. Time and time again he has proved he can’t be responsible about his food choices so I feel the need to eliminate choice (other than what snack he wants that day) Is this too harsh?
Julian,
I’m sorry you have to deal with this. I think it’s important to take a step back and consider what could be contributing to his behavior. It’s easy to look at the behavior and get mad, but there are reasons he is acting out with food and the goal is to figure out those reasons. I think it’s clear the family needs professional help at this point. Just outlining advice is not going to be enough. If you tell me where you are I can recommend someone or you can go to eatright.org to find a dietitian near you. But I also think there’s other non-food stuff going on that might need attention. Oftentimes, children going through difficult stuff turn to food. Has he been though tought times? Does he know how to deal with his feelings?
I do have a book coming out (How to Raise a Mindful Eater) in November that touches on 8 principles for raising a child with a healthy relationship with food. I think that will be helpful to you.
My daughter is in 5th grade. She is not afforded a “snack time” at all during the day. She gets on the bus at 8:20 AM and she gets home at 4:15 PM. She only gets one opportunity to eat: lunch time. She is starving by the time she gets home from school. I have a degree in nutrition and counseling and as a mom, I am appalled at this situation. I have brought my concerns to the attention of the teacher and School Counselor, but to no avail. I am now ready to back up my concerns with publications. If you have any suggestions, please let me know. I am looking for not only health studies, but also test score studies, but I am having a hard time finding any.
I will see what I can find. I know there’s lots of research on breakfast and learning but now sure about snacks/in between meal eating. I’ll get back to you!
Thanks
I live in a house with 4 little boys. Theres two 3 year olds, a 4 year old and a 5 year old. Their feeding times are all the same. The 5 year old goes to school during the week so he has lunch at school. The other 3 have breakfast around 9 or 10, lunch at 12, usually a snack around 2 or 3 and dinner at 5 6. The problem is they always are hungry in between all those meals and theyll come sneak food out the fridge and cabinets. What is a good schedule to keep them full until meal times happen so they dont have snacks in between meals?
You could try making it a fruit only between meals rule. So have fruit out and if they get hungry they can go to the fruit bowl. It could be that they are just snacking on food they like (crackers etc.) instead of really being hungry. If they go to bed late, you could add an evening snack.
I thank you for the article. Yesterday, Thursday, September 14, 2017, my wife and I attended the elementary where I daughter is enrolled. It was a parent conference to meet teachers who would explain their class routine and the curriculum for the year as well as behavior expectations. I was uneasy about the lunch time 12:20PM. We feed breakfast to our daughter every morning around 7:15AM. Then, I walk her to school while mom gets ready for her job in a small town close by (20 miles). My daughters two teachers refuse to allow a morning or afternoon snack for the children when I explained that our daughter eats a large early breakfast, but needed a snack before the late lunch hour. Their arrogant retort left me hanging in shock, “there is no one else complaining about it.” I went to the principal and he gave me a lame reason that it would interrupt academic learning time, and it would take too much time for students to eat, clean up. and return to their studying. or learning stations or small group work. I taught public and private school for 37 years before retiring, and I never had any problem training my students on snack procedures and cleaning up after themselves, even my second graders could follow my snack procedures without any trouble in academic downtime. Do you have any other research articles that I could download to support my snacking
Most of the studies look at diet quality at snack time. Healthier snacks are better for children’s academic performance. Here’s a study that might help:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/28448455
my grandkids are constantly saying they’re hungry although they ate an hour ago. they want to snack all day. I have a 6yr.old boy two granddaughters 10 and 15. sometimes they’re snacking on a sandwich at midnight. my fifteen year old has a stomach that looks like she is six months pregnant and people have asked when she is having her baby. fifteen year old doesn’t chew her food she swallows it. a bag of chips she has tohurry up and finiish them before anyone asks her for one. I don’t know how to help her since diabetes and cirrohsis is in the familly. cirrosis we were told comes from obesity medication or alcohol.
Having some rules about when children eat can help — this means regular ad predictable mealtimes and no eating between. I discuss that in this post: https://maryannjacobsen.com/want-to-strengthen-your-childs-self-control-muscle-avoid-this-common-feeding-mistake/