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The Only Guarantee I Can Make About Your Child’s Eating

November 15, 2011

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This is Part 2 in a collection of posts written in preparation for my book Fearless Feeding

I pretty much steer clear of guarantees when it comes to children’s eating. But while sitting in on an educational session at the American Dietetic Association’s Food and Nutrition Expo — a big light bulb went off after hearing “Kids are dynamic and constantly changing.”

I knew this was true for kids’ eating but somehow hearing it struck a nerve — in a good way.

So here’s my guarantee: your child’s eating will change. Depending on where your child is in their development, this may be a good thing, a not-so-good thing or something in-between.  And I’m going to tell you why it matters.

Jump Ahead

  • Being able to see past today is a sanity saver
  • Being prepared is half the battle
  • When you’re not prepared it’s worse
  • Each feeding stage is linked

Being able to see past today is a sanity saver

No matter what feeding stage you are in, you were probably never taught to look beyond it. If you’re focused on what foods to feed your baby or how to handle picky eating, it can be all-consuming. But looking ahead is not only vital to your child’s future eating habits, it’s important for your sanity.

Knowing that my reluctant-to-try-new-foods 5-year old is at the tail end of her food neophobic peak (2-6 years) helps me tremendously. That means all the food exposure she’s getting now will translate to more and more food diversity in the not-so-distant future. But if I thought she was going to be this way forever, this stage would be much tougher and no doubt our feeding interactions would suffer.

Understanding that things will get better down the road doesn’t solve everything– you also need to anticipate the next major challenge so you can focus on prevention and be prepared.

Being prepared is half the battle

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there is never going to be a time when you are free and clear of challenges when it comes to feeding. That’s because kids’ brains and bodies are constantly changing — and they learn something different at each stage.

Much of the advice given on this blog such as providing regular meals and snacks at the table, allowing children to choose whether and how much to eat and managing sweets wisely, helps prepare toddlers and preschoolers for the outside food influences they encounter during the school years. After all, you will not always be there to tell your child how much to eat or what type of foods to choose.

Once children hit the school-age years, you’ll want to anticipate the I-want-to-get-away-from-my-parents teen stage by building on your child’s food independence skills.  I asked Jill Castle, expert pediatric dietitian, and mother of 4 kids between the ages of 10 and 15, for some advice.

“Allow school-aged children the liberty to assemble snacks, pack lunch (with a template to guide), decode ads and images, and help with meal planning and preparation, ” she says. “Family-style meals, self-serving and keeping in line with the Satter Division of Responsibility allow for test-driving independent food selection.”

Fortunately for us busy parents, preparing and preventing problems in the next stage helps us to do a better job today.

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When you’re not prepared it’s worse

Diane Welland, MS, RD, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Eating Clean, had a son who ate well from the very beginning and she had no reason to think it would ever change. She was surprised when his eating habits took a complete nose dive in the teen years when he gained a new kind of independence that included a car!

“While I was not prepared for my son’s eating habits to change so drastically, I knew this is one-way teens assert their independence and try to find themselves,” she says. “I understood why he was doing it and the fact that it was a phase but swallowing it from a mom/dietitian’s perspective is still hard to take.”

Diane tried her best to not force or nag her dietary habits on to her son, which wasn’t always easy.  Instead, she tried to focus on being a good role model and teaching her son by showing.

“It’s the long term that counts — think of your child’s diet as a cycle with ups and downs,” she adds. “If this is a down period, hopefully, with time, it will go up again.”

Being unprepared for the next stage doesn’t always mean you did something wrong in the previous one, it’s just easier when you expect the challenges.  So if they don’t happen, or aren’t as bad as you thought, that’s even better.

Each feeding stage is linked

One of the reasons I don’t focus on one age-range for this blog is because all of the feeding stages are linked and that includes adulthood.  If you are struggling with feeding your child today, it can help to look back to what they learned, or didn’t learn, in a previous stage — and course correct if necessary.

And it’s never too early to think about how what’s going on today affects your child’s eating tomorrow, ten years from now and into adulthood.

What worries you the most about your kids’ eating future and are you doing anything to prepare for it?  Or are you just trying to survive the here and now?

Posts Included in the Series:
1. Announcing the Fearless Feeding Movement
2. The Only Guarantee I Can Make About Your Child’s Eating
3. Did You Make This Feeding Mistake the First 2 Years? [Next]
4. Expert Interview: Lucy Cooke, Ph.D.
5. The Feeding Strategy Every Parent Needs in Their Toolbox
6. Fearless Feeding Release Party!
7. The (No) Clean Plate Mom Comes Clean
8. Fearless Feeding 5 Years Later [Podcast]

It’s here! The most ambitious feeding book of our time: Fearless Feeding: How to Raise Healthy Eaters from High Chair to High School

 

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  1. Jessica @ This Blessed Life says

    November 15, 2011 at 8:45 am

    We are at the point where my son’s eating issues are so bad that we are researching pediatric feeding specialists in our area. I needed to hear this today. THANK YOU.

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      November 15, 2011 at 3:20 pm

      Definitely get an evaluation for sensory issues. I’ve been reading more about this and the interventions really help. Let me know if you need help finding someone (it’s usually a feeding team that does the evals)!

      Reply
  2. Jill Castle says

    November 15, 2011 at 10:25 am

    Great post, Maryann! Can’t wait to hear about your upcoming project…;)
    Yes, feeding is the fabric of childhood and parents are weaving right up to the end!
    Another point to bring up: parents are raising the next generation of parents–getting eating and feeding right (or optimal) is worth it, as it impacts our future generations and their health and relations with food and eating.

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      November 15, 2011 at 3:21 pm

      Thanks! I think you’ll love the project!

      Reply
  3. Cristi Gray says

    November 17, 2011 at 1:24 pm

    I love your blog and I really appreciate this post. I have a 5 year old fruit hater and a 4 year old vegetable hater so feeding my family healthy is not a walk in the park. My husband and I are constantly discussing how much and what to push and when to just let it go. What they eat is healthy, but they each want to eat the same things all the time. Knowing that will change is a tremendous encouragement!

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  4. Maryann says

    November 27, 2011 at 7:40 am

    I’m glad the article helped Cristi. Our young kids want the same food too but we are always telling them that we don’t eat the same things every day. I know this stage won’t last — and that helps me too!

    Reply
  5. Laura says

    December 2, 2014 at 8:10 am

    We have a 6 year old who will refuse food no matter how hungry he is. Meal time is a nightmare and I truly dread every time we sit down to eat. I’ve tried so many different approaches such as letting him help cook the food, help choose what we eat, make things I know he likes (which is very little) and still once he sits down its a disaster. He cries, yells, tells little white lies or whatever can to get out of eating. My husband and I have come to the clonclusion that we need to take him to some sort of professional. Any advice or other idea would be great.

    Reply
    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      December 2, 2014 at 9:30 am

      The end of this post has resources for you. Hang in there! http://www.maryannjacobsen.com/2013/08/the-nagging-question-every-parent-of-a-picky-eater-asks-part-2/

      Reply
  6. Lauren says

    February 14, 2019 at 2:14 pm

    My 2.5 year old is pretty stubborn and picky with food at home. He eats more things at school – the peer pressure helps! He rarely eats a ton for dinner, afrer school and snacking all day there I think he is never super hungry, which I try to remember when he eats ONLY a yogurt for dinner. I am on a rotation of the things I know he will like for dinner and try to add a side of what we are eating if he wants to try it. I appreciate your blogs and emails as they help me try not to stress and hope that I am providing him with enough support to have a good relationship with food and be willing to be more adventurous when he gets older. Thank you for helping with that and easing a worried moms mind!

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    • Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD says

      February 15, 2019 at 8:38 am

      Thanks Lauren! Quick question. Do you do family style dinners? This might be a good time to try. Here’s a way to make it work with little ones http://maryannjacobsen.com/2015/07/the-side-strategy-that-has-saved-my-familys-mealtime/

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